Break Up... Dealing With It and Moving On

Break ups are never fun. Its so emotionally tense you can call it an emotional rollercoaster but its never fun. Whichever side you are on the break up, you're bound to be bombarded with intense emotions.

Numbness, shortness of breath, your heart rate beating like crazy, dizziness, or even vomiting - these signs and feelings may sound crazy...but rest assured you're normal. When something hits you out of the blue...shocks you and emotionally crushes you, it's normal to feel these things.

You'd even get to a point where you'll not feel anything...you don't even know what's going on. You may even deny the fact that the break up has occured! But again, these mechanisms are normal.

Lastly you may even feel anger and resentment - both against you and your ex. This is again normal for you to feel. That's they way we humans grieve for something that we have lost. Allow these feelings to occur...and vent them out but in an appropriate environment.

Cry with your friends around, scream, or even wail to your heart's delight. BUT never take that anger out to your ex. It will only make you feel worse at a later stage. And much worse, you'll appear petty and small to others. Just because your ex hurts you with the break-up doesn't mean you have to retaliate...no matter what DON'T do it!

Accepting these emotions will aid you in accepting the break-up itself and will ultimately allow you to free yourself from these pains and move on.

People woth good intentsions will tell you that the break-up was best and you'll get over it eventuially. It may not seem so duringa break-up, but keep in mind what they're telling you. Nobody can dictate how you should feel or deal with this painful experience.

But it is important to face these emotions, and allow them to occur...they'll heal after some time; and yes, unfortunately it takes time, allow yourself time and space to be alone and to breathe...this'll give you time to reflect and clear up the confusion which will help in calming these stormy emotions.