Break Up Advice

Break ups are one of the most emotionally crushing experiences you could get yourself into, and it feels like there’s no end to the pain.

The intense emotions and feelings brought about by the decision to part ways feel like they would be there forever…you can’t help but think you have no choice but to live with hell…the broken heart.

Most of these myriads of not-so-good emotions we carry are brought by the embarrassment we feel from being broken up with. Don’t fret…its natural. But if you want to move forward and get yourself out of that quagmire, you must accept the fact the he/she left you.

Feeling anger and resentment against your partner is natural, too. Its okay to feel these emotions. Make sure, though, that you let them out in the appropriate environment.

To cry, wail, and scream alone at your room or with your friends is human: However, feeling the need for revenge and taking it out on your ex is NOT humane!

Doing so will leave a mark on you and your ex which you might regret someday. Channeling your fury to your ex will also make you look immature and cheap to others.

Blaming yourself is another common reaction. This is when your ‘should haves’ ‘could haves’ and ‘would haves’ or ‘what ifs’ crop up.

And my advice? Get rid of those thoughts. It’s nobody’s fault. The fact that you broke up is evidence that there is something wrong with the relationship, so preventing the break up would be selfish…preventing your partner from finding the person that’s right for him/her.

You may find your partner discovering a new love interest and feeling the anger and resentment into play is natural. Keep in mind though, you should allow these feelings to occur and express them BUT in an appropriate environment and non-hurtful way.

To be hurt is human, and everyone hurts at some stage. Accepting the fact that we are hurting will help face reality and move away and forward from the disaster.

Nothing heals wounds best than time. So take your time…enjoy whatever you have today. You’ll have good days and bad days.

But once you have accepted the break up, the pain, and burden you’re carrying, moving on with your life will be a lot easier..